I will admit that there was a time when I looked upon what others had with envy; in a way I still do. The one (or one particular) area of my life that I have been a dismal failure at has been the area of family and romance.
I am after all: 45 years old, Single, Never Married, with no Kids. You can guess what I have always wanted, but I digress. I try not to dwell on this and other failures of the past, but rather look to the future.
I write this blog not to glorify myself, but rather the opposite; to offer up my life, or the lessons that I have learned (mostly through my failures) to others. It has always been done with the eye to “Don’t do what I did; learn from my mistakes so you don’t do the same.” Yet even then I do not see myself as the al- knowing oracle of wisdom.
Nor do I mention how I am doing to brag or be otherwise arrogant, that is not my style. I say how I am doing, simply to report how I am doing. If I can offer a bit of inspiration to someone who is thinking of following a similar path to mine in order to improve their lives, great.
I also know that there are others that look upon my life with an eye of entertainment and snicker that I, and not them, are going through what I go through, particularly in winter. Once again, this does not bother me, laugh and point if you want, that’s okay.
I don’t compare myself to others, as their life, and their situation, is not mine. Each person has a unique set of circumstances to live with and challenges to overcome. I don’t belittle anyone, nor would I dare to say that my life is any harder or easier than anyone else’s; it is simply different.
The point of my daily blog is to offer up snippets of my life with an eye to give others a moment to pause and reflect on a lesson, however small, that I have learned so that it may better their lives. This I mix in with the other tangible and technical lessons that I have learned while living this lifestyle.
I have learned long ago not to compare my life to others; my life is mine, and theirs is theirs. Each life and circumstances are different; each one has their own set of challenges, perils and delights.
One life is not better than the other, just different. Often when looking at someone else’s life from the outside, we only see the good and enviable and not the bad and pitiful.
It is for this reason that I say to you all today: live your own life, run your own race and do not compare and measure your life against others’. To do so is not healthy and no good will come from this.
If you look to someone else and get inspired on how and where to improve your life; great, that’s good. After that, stop comparing yourself to them and take ownership of that change you desire.
Move towards that new goal you have for yourself, make that goal, that change that you want to make, truly your own. Work towards that new goal in your own way, in your own time and at your own speed.
Your life is your own, so make it a good one.
As always: Keep your head up, your attitude positive, and keep moving forward!